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Write About Loss<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing this because I’m remembering my uncle, whose birthday would have been today. But i wanted to write about things you’ve lost, or you’ve left behind. Kind of goes to my oft used You Can Leave<\/a>.<\/em> so, what’s gone away that you miss? How about things that are gone, and you don’t really care are gone?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Speaking of this, this morning, I was invited by a community I’d abandoned on Locals. It might have been a please-come-back-here’s-a-free-month thing, but I actually dismissed the alert before I could read it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It’s kind of what I do when I leave. I rarely look back. When I say I’m finished, I’m finished.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And there I of again starting to type out something about how “maybe I shouldn’t do that,” but my reaction is always that it’s my fault. If I’d done something differently, maybe I wouldn’t be in this s situation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But, no, really, my judgment isn’t that fucked. When I get to the point when I decide it’s necessary to depart, I should just stick to that.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thinking about it, though, I can’t think of a single instance where I’ve been really regretful about not rekindling something I’ve left.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That was a period of life. It’s over now. Move on.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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On the issue of loss, I think that came up because I’m pretty sure today would have been my uncle’s 65th birthday.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I knew him, but the physical separation maant we weren’t really close. He was my dad’s youngest brother. My two uncles weren’t terribly close while I was alive for a variety of reasons, but had reunited for a couple of years after my dad died.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

He did not have a fun life. It sounds like it was tough from an early age. I didn’t have a lot of insight into it, and there was a reason my old man was in such a rush to get out of where he grew up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I don’t know. We never really talked about it that much. But now they’re all gone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things here, now, are, though, better.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A Lot better.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

My wife was telling me that there was an out gay guy working as a greeter in one of the national chains she visited yesterday.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I seem to remember a story of one of my uncles getting in a fight after being accused, not being gay, but being an airman<\/em>. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sorts of things that people outside Air Force towns will never understand.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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I forgot to set my Out-of-Office message before I left.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Oops.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Write About Loss Doing this because I’m remembering my uncle, whose birthday would have been today. But i wanted to write about things you’ve lost, or you’ve left behind. Kind of goes to my oft used You Can Leave. so, what’s gone away that you miss? How about things that are gone, and you don’t […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[6],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-4724","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-national-journal-writers-month"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/control-h.org\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4724","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/control-h.org\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/control-h.org\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/control-h.org\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/control-h.org\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4724"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/control-h.org\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4724\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/control-h.org\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4724"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/control-h.org\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4724"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/control-h.org\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4724"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}